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The Unexamined Life: A Journey into Self-Reflection

It's easy to get swept away by the demands of work, relationships, and societal expectations. Socrates once said, "The unexamined life is not worth living," These words resonate more today than ever.

The unexamined life refers to a mode of living where individuals simply go through the motions of the day-to-day. Essentially, most individuals live on autopilot, without taking the time to reflect on their actions, beliefs or values. It's a life driven by external forces rather than intentional choices. Socrates' assertion challenges us to question whether we are truly living or merely existing.

Here are some of the reasons for pausing and taking the time to do some inner work.

Discovering Authenticity:

One of the greatest sources of frustration in our lives comes from being out of alignment with ourselves. When we are not living in integrity with “who we are,” we experience tension that carries over into all other areas of our lives. Being all things to all men comes with a cost and that cost is our identity. We lose ourselves in the demands and expectations of others.

Self-reflection is a powerful tool for uncovering our authentic selves. By questioning our motivations, values, and aspirations, we can strip away societal expectations and discover what truly matters to us. This process allows us to live in alignment with our true selves rather than conforming to external standards.

Growth and Development:

Without self-examination, personal growth becomes stagnant. Reflection on past experiences, successes, and failures provides valuable insights that fuel continuous improvement. Embracing a growth mindset allows us to learn from our mistakes, adapt to change, and evolve into better versions of ourselves.

Meaning and Purpose:

Climbing the later of success only to find that it´s on the wrong wall result in disillusionment. What we think will bring us fulfillment often leaves us feeling empty in the end. Hedonic adaptation is a universal experience. The new shinny thing we´ve been chasing soon loses its luster.

Through self-reflection, we can identify our passions and align our actions with a greater sense of meaning and purpose. This introspective journey helps us build a life that resonates with our core values and contributes to the well-being of ourselves, as well as, the people and world around us. It leads us towards the “good life.”

Cultivating Mindfulness:

Self-reflection is a gateway to mindfulness, the practice of giving attention and being fully present in the moment.

By examining our thoughts and emotions, we can develop greater awareness and appreciation for the richness of each experience. Mindfulness enables us to navigate life with intention, reducing stress and enhancing our relationship to all that surrounds us, leading to overall well-being.

“When we give our attention, we are giving life, but we are also feeling more alive in the process. Time and attention are the essential materials of happiness.” Robert Waldinger, The Good Life, and How to Live It

Herea are some practical Tips on Self-Reflection:


Meditation provides a space for quiet introspection. By calming the mind, we can tune into our inner thoughts and gain clarity on our values, goals, and aspirations. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about meditation so I would advise you to start slow and learn as much as you can about it. Meditation is an art that takes practice and patience. The more you do it the better you get at it.


Keeping a journal allows us to record thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Regularly reviewing journal entries provides insights into patterns of behavior and thought, fostering self-awareness.

The use of journal prompts can be very helpful for those moments where you feel like you have writers block. You can also use flow of consciousness as a catalyst. This is when you start writing with no focus on a specific idea, topic or subject. Grammar doesn´t count here. You just go for it and let it flow. It´s always interesting to read what comes up.

Seeking Feedback:

External perspectives can offer valuable insights. In the book, Meditations, Marcus Aurelius mentions the observation of a friend and mentor named Rusticus. “From Rusticus I received the impression that my character required improvement and discipline…” The life lessons learned from having this truthful observation from Rusticus served the emperor well. Seeking feedback from friends, family, or mentors can provide a different vantage point and aid in personal growth.

The unexamined life may be comfortable, but it lacks the depth and richness that self-reflection can bring. Embracing this journey of introspection is not just a philosophical endeavor; it is a practical and transformative step toward a more authentic, purposeful, and meaningful life.

I invite you to embark on this journey of self-discovery. In examining our lives, we unlock the door to a more profound and fulfilling existence.

Here´s to discovering a happier heathier you!

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