Now that we are making our way towards the end of January, many have already begun to walk away from their resolutions. I´d like to focus on just a few reason as to why this happens.
We abandon our resolutions, goals, and intentions because:
1. We don´t have a deep enough reason to continue.
2. The vision of possibility was limiting and small. When it comes to the future, we humans lack imagination. We are great at living in the past, but have difficulty envisioning and creating our future. Our focus is shortsighted and hardly ever extends past the immediate.
3. We focus on solely on ourselves unaware that what we do has an impact on the world. Whether you know this or not, each of us plays a role in shaping the world around us.
Here´s the reframe:
What if our resolutions, goals and intentions were based on the idea of legacy? On intentionally creating something that will live on in service to others after we are gone.
What if we embraced Matt Griswald´s (no relation to Clark) idea of, “Think in decades, act in days,” and began living for something greater than ourselves?
Marcus Aurelius begins a thought in one of the passages in his book Meditations by stating that, “the human soul degrades itself when … it allows its actions or impulses to be without purpose, to be random and disconnected.”
A “degraded soul” is one that lacks purpose and will easily flounder through life without a sense of direction or vision. This makes it easier to abandon the desire for achievement. There is no desire to continue when there is no deeper reason for why you started than a random whim.
Purpose is what´s missing from so many of our attempts towards transformation, change, and a better future.
4. We have a tendency to overcomplicate things.
We have made the idea of knowing one´s purpose as something almost unknowable. A secret the gods kept from us in order to frustrate humans. So let me help you with a simple definition:
Let´s begin with a universal definition for one´s purpose that is packaged as a simple statement but in reality is a powerful principle: leave this place better than you found it.
This idea invites us to consider the impact of our actions, decisions, and contributions on the world and the people we encounter.
In our quest to leave things better, we find meaning and significance. We leave a positive mark on the world by contributing to the creation for a better future.
Leaving everything better doesn´t require that we do “great” things. Often, we underestimate the power of small, everyday actions. Acts of kindness, empathy, and compassion may seem inconsequential in the moment, but collectively, they can create a ripple effect that touches countless lives. Every small act contributes to the overall well-being of our shared world.
Consider the following thought given by French theologian Hyacinthe Loyson delivered in Paris in 1866,
“These trees which he plants, and under whose shade he shall never sit, he loves them for themselves, and for the sake of his children and his children’s children, who are to sit beneath the shadow of their spreading boughs.”
The simple act of planting a tree has generational implications.
Your decision not to give up and continue in your journey changes the world – be it the world around you and/or the greater world beyond you for generations to come.
Here´s how that works:
Continuing on your quest towards the fulfillment of your goals, intentions, and desires ultimately makes you better. You become a better version of yourself which in turn influences the world around you and makes it better, which results in a better future for you and others.
Simple, right? So don´t quite! The world needs you not to quit!!
Here´s to discovering a happier healthier you in 2024!